appreciate the responses.... but definitely never had touched the remote desktop settings after it was working... so unless a hot fix somehow unchecked it. I did double check the windows firewall and even manually removed and added the RDP port 3389 (which is set in the registry) ..
and coincidentally my router had died around the same time (purely coincidental, coulda been a day or 2 after the rdp stopped working i dont know). So i was also setting up a new router, but it wasnt like i had messed up the settings b/c (see next paragraph)
anyway i ended up upgrading to ultimate through some student deal for $65 (yeah yeah, i know) and have had no problems using the same router settings I had on the new router ...
on the plus side, i at least gey my copy/paste working 100% and my sound over RDP working...
good luck all, Microsoft won this battle with me :(